STEP ONE: DISTRACT

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Distraction. It truly is an art!  And it is key to helping your child move emotionally from frightened and anxious to a calm and secure state. Until they make this move, they will not be able to learn and behave the way you need them to in public settings that can be upsetting, such as a loud restaurant or airport.

When a child is whisked from his secure home setting and brought to these unfamiliar places, his anxiety is real. It is also normal and healthy for a bright active child to object to being confined, unable t move about for any length of time. The type and severity of objection will depend on the child's personality, but for the most part, they will do whatever it takes to get you to take them badk to where they feel safe. 

THE SOLUTION IS SIMPLY THIS: Make them feel safe, secure and connected wherever you are! 

It's simpler than you think. Distraction is a similar concept to a muscle spasm. You first have to break the cycle! A simple, fun distraction is extremely effective. 

Here are some easy ways to get their attention instantly, and make them forget why they were upset.

1. TOYS: Use one of the toys such as the Pop-Ups. Press it down and wait for it to jump. Watch your child stop fussing and become instanly fascinated and delighted, as his  energy changes instantly. 
2. MAGIC TRICKS: Annonce loudly you, Mommy (or Daddy) is about to melt a salt shaker through the table and you need their full attention. Perform this or one of the other magic tricks described in the book to change their mood instantly.
3. GAMES: Open the Guide Book and start to ask them one of the Questions Games described in the book such as "Would You Rather." Ask them one by one, "Would you rather have an extra eye or ear, and where would you put it and why." Watch the fun begin, as their wheels  of imagination start turning. With one question you are telling the you are interested in what they have to say. Listen intently and be sure to share your preference as well

Once you have broken the cycle, you are now ready to continue onto the next step that you have already started with the Question Games: ENGAGE